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Closer to 30 than I am to 20 – Birthday shenanigans

Helurrr beautiful people! I just had my birthday on the 13th and turned a whole year older (who would’ve thought!). My birthday has always been a big deal to me because it was the one day that celebrated me (of course, I think I should be celebrated every day) and my family always made me feel so special. There was always cake, presents and family members to celebrate with me and loads of embarrassing photos locked away in albums. The other thing that remained constant was my impatience to be older! I don’t know if I’m alone here but I was always wishing that I would grow up already (man was I a doos!). It dawned on me this year that I will actually be closer to 30 than I am to 20. I.WAS.FREAKING.OUT.

I’m always saying to my human that women and men age differently – both physically (sometimes) and emotionally (all the time). So when he tries to tell me to calm down (which works as well as trying to baptize a cat), he argues that my age should not be an issue. I’m glad that he still tries, after all this time, to actually convince me otherwise LOL, but this is definitely something that is an issue to me. Let’s be honest here, when we were growing up, we all had an idea of where we would be at certain points in our lives. My imagination was a beautiful place and I had really massive dreams when it came to my future. HOWEVER, this post is not filled with regret in any way! This is an appreciation post for a birthday that has made me feel most alive. For those of you following me on socials, you would’ve already seen what I got up to – well mostly.

First times

I’ve never been an adrenaline junkie – mainly because I’m Indian and was brought up by parents who thought it was dangerous to walk under a tree after dark (I still don’t do it, but that’s because its easier to spot bugs in the daytime). I did take the occasional trip to an amusement park and watched my Dad cringe every time I stood in line for “my untimely death” – but that’s when I realised that I was not scared of heights or speed. I am not ashamed to say that the first time that I ever went on a roller coaster was last year, I feel like I needed 25 years to prepare for that event. I must admit that Cape Town has allowed me to experience so many things and I am truly grateful for that. The first time I went up to Signal Hill was for a picnic and I was so blown away by the paragliders! It was such an amazing concept – flying. I dropped hints like it was nobody’s business about how much I would love to do it, and lo and behold, that’s what my human got me for my birthday! Check out the video below (maybe subscribe, like and share also).


Another first was that my daughter got me a present. Let me elaborate on why this is such a big thing for me. She is 8 and for the past 6 years, all I’ve ever received were cards. Not from cardies. I kept all of them and they’re great for when I want to embarrass her at her wedding one day, but children need to be taught the importance of sentiment and effort from a young age. With the help of my human, she did some chores, earned some money and got me some really cool stuff. It was not the actual money that was spent on me that mattered, but the time, thought and effort that this little kid put into making my day special that completely blew me away.


We went for dinner at the Hussar Grill in Willowbridge, which I would just like to expand on a bit. Before I do, I’d like to mention that my human has given me the best food experiences in our time together, so naturally the bar is set really high. I love food, and for me, it’s the whole experience that I enjoy. We were seated at a beautiful table next to a window and the entire place was so stunning – it had a vintage feel, which I loved (wine bottles and books everywhere). The service was really good and our time there as a family was really pleasant. However, I was disappointed at the food, considering that we go on recommendations and someone had said that this place had the best steak ever – they lied. The food was average, in my opinion, and the bill was a hefty one. I would’ve appreciated if someone recommended the place saying that “the food was average, but the whole dining experience was amazing.” That’s just me though. That didn’t take away from the fact that I have had one of the best birthdays yet!

Prawn & avo cocktail | Escargot 3 ways


I hope you enjoyed me sharing my birthday experiences with you, and I would really love if you would share your birthday memories with me. Please comment down below!

Until next time



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Miss Govender

A woman with a purpose | Also I love food | Is food my purpose? It is a possibility!

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  1. Denisha says:

    super duper , awesome birthday gift! really special. big up to your bf.
    What was the best thing u did for your boyfies birthday , and whats ur idea for a surprise for a guy, I need some ideas for mine, lol

    1. Miss Govender says:

      Well my human is a huge comic fan, so I got him a limited edition of his favorite comic book… also baked him a cake one year. He’s a simple bloke who values sentiment. Maybe try and get him something that he’ll use – functionally, guys like those kind of things

  2. Sheldon says:

    A norm from people being so pessimistic on social media , your write up is simple , yet warm on so many levels!!
    Keep being as awesome as your human is! 🙂

    1. Miss Govender says:

      Awh this is so sweet, thank you Sheldon ?

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