Real Talk

Fairytales and why you’re doing it wrong.

Helurrr beautiful souls 🙂

I would like to thank each and every one of you for all of the support and love that you’ve shown on my posts. My last one in particular has reached more views than I expected and the feedback that I’ve been receiving has been phenomenal (You can read it here if you missed it).

Today, we’re going back to basics. I will be keeping it real as always, and in return, I would like to ask you to have an open mind and consider different possibilities. Think back to the first fairytale you’ve heard/read/seen, it could have been one of the famous ones : Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, Rapunzel, Snow White & the seven dwarves, etc. Do you have one in mind? Great! These stories were about bringing people together, getting rid of the bad things, falling inlove with a prince and just living happily ever after, right? Lets move over to the movie industry, think of your favorite love story : Titanic, The Notebook, 50 first dates, Crazy, Stupid, Love, etc. In a little over an hour and a half, you watch a girl turn into a woman, land her dream job, become completely independent and meet the man of her dreams who is actually perfect. This perfect man probably starts off as a real ‘ladies man’ and enjoys casual relationships whilst never really feeling anything for anyone – until he meets this girl, whom he falls head over heels for and leaves his partying nights (and days) behind. In 92 minutes?! Are you kidding me???

Here lies the problem people. It’s not the unrealistic expectation that you are going to bump into Ryan Gosling at a bar and he’s going to put the ‘Dirty Dancing’ move on you. It’s not even the fact that Cinderella doesn’t have to use tarte shape tape. Its the time frame and succession of events that lead us to believe that it’s just not possible in the real world.


What if I told you that could be possible, you just need to adjust your mindset and accept a slightly longer time frame? That dream job is definitely possible girl, it’s probably going to take a crap load of time to get there, but you will get there. Independence is more than a state of mind or having a lot of money, it’s knowing what to do with what you have and how to take care of yourself. The day that you start limiting yourself on what you can or cannot do is the day that you don’t believe in your true potential – and trust me girl, you have potential for greatness.

So start building yourself, study further, take up a new hobby, get in shape! Find out who YOU are and what YOU want from life. Surround yourself with people and things that inspire you, empower you and drive you to be the best version of YOU. Speaking of driving – get your driver’s license and work on getting your own set of wheels. This is such a liberating experience and sometimes a short drive to the gas station is all you need. I have the best conversations with myself when I’m sitting in traffic, with some Jess Glynne in the background and maybe some coffee. If you can’t talk to yourself, aint nobody else gonna do it girl!

As for Ryan Gosling, stop looking for him so hard that you lose yourself. He’s probably out there, waiting for the day that he gets to sweep you off your feet. Maybe he’s not. Does that make you any less of a woman? Heck no! Live your life girl, be thankful for all that you have and remain hungry for all that you desire. Make it happen, Cinderella didn’t meet her prince without sacrifice – she lost her shoe! Have you ever tried walking with just one shoe on? That is rough.

Having an identity is so precious. Get to know yourself, figure out that girl in the mirror and let her know that she is beautiful every single day. And the most important thing is to give yourself time – if you can’t do your hair and makeup in 92 minutes, how do you expect your whole life to happen in that time? Breathe, smile and do it!

Until next time xx


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  1. tracy says:

    Is this from ur personal experience? because no matter what, we all fall prey to what we think was great in the beginning.
    Men decieve you and portray prince charming.. I am sure u have seen that somewhere a long the line which is why i remain single and happier.

    You are so young yet have a lot of wisdom.

    1. RaeesaG13 says:

      Hi Tracy 🙂 thank you so much for reading. I do speak from personaly experience most of the time, other times it’s just what I’ve witnessed from other people. There are definitely people who are not who they appear to be, which is why this post was specifically aimed at building yourself first – before looking for someone to complete you. Take care hun xx

  2. Monique says:

    Video Blog – Vlog. We want to hear the voice of this inspiring young talented lady.
    Well done Miss G. Keep on,Keeping it Real??

    1. RaeesaG13 says:

      Thank you Monique, will definitely look into it 🙂 xx

  3. nelly says:

    can ur next blog be on ur experiences on relationships and some advice ??on the men species?

    1. RaeesaG13 says:

      Hi Nelly 🙂 Thank you so much for reading. Unfortunately I have not figured the male species out yet – I don’t think anyone has lol. I do have a new blog post coming soon so subscribe via email to get notified as soon as it is up! xx

  4. Joelene Sewsunker says:

    Hi rae,

    Hope you well.

    Every post of yours is so inspiring and the topics you talk about phenomenal. Your last post about being a teen mom… I totally salute you on that for letting people know how you manage being a young mom and completing school. It definitely was not easy but you got thru it. As for being a single mom you doing a great job… You such a inspiration for me and many other women out there. Keep up the good work.


    1. RaeesaG13 says:

      Thank you so much for your lovely words Joelene. It really means a lot to me that you feel that way and I can only hope to continue to spread good thoughts. 🙂

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